Create and nurture your most authentic, honest, and connected relationships
Serving nonmonogamous partners across Washington State
Nonmonogamy opens up new worlds.
It can be liberating, expansive, and deeply affirming. It can also be incredibly complex and uniquely challenging.
Practicing nonmonogamy in a world that assumes and celebrates monogamy can feel isolating. You might come to therapy because you’re navigating a relationship where partners don’t have the same vision for how to practice nonmonogamy. It might be difficult to establish boundaries that feel good and safe for everyone.
You could be currently in a monogamous relationship and seeking support with exploring or transitioning to some form of nonmonogamy.
You might be feeling worn down by mononormativity and cultural misunderstanding.
Whatever is bringing you to therapy, nonmonogamous relationship challenges can feel even more layered. You're not only tending to your own needs and emotions, but possibly those of multiple partners, while also navigating external judgment.
And when relationships are rocky, it touches everything. You deserve support that honors your values and helps you build the kind of relationships you're intentionally choosing.
You’ve already broken free from the script of monogamy. Now you have the opportunity to write something entirely your own.
You’ll get support expressing your needs clearly—and hearing your partner(s)’ needs without judgment or fear. We’ll make space for emotions that may not align with your relationship values, and work on skills to help you move through them with more self-trust and regulation.
Most of all, we’ll build toward high-trust communication—so that everyone involved feels safe, honest, and genuinely understood.
In therapy, we’ll focus on creating relationships that feel grounded, nourishing, and aligned with your values. Together, we’ll explore:
What you truly need in a relationship. What are your authentic desires and what comes from cultural conditioning but doesn’t truly align with you. How do you non-judgmentally and non-defensively pull those things apart?
What helps you feel safe enough to deeply connect. When your nervous system is activated, deep, vulnerable connection is impossible. What do you need to soothe your nervous system and let your body know you are safe?
What you can let go of to make space for something new. All relationships require compromise. Where can you compromise in a way that doesn’t sacrifice your needs, but instead opens up the path for what you most deeply want?
Therapy can help you:
Understand and express your boundaries
Balance individual freedom with mutual care
Accept and soothe difficult emotions like jealousy or insecurity
Strengthen your communication and repair after conflict
Negotiate new agreements and transitions
Navigate changes in existing relationships or new connections
You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
You’re already building something intentional. With the right support, it can feel even more connected, honest, and secure.
FAQs: Nonmonogamous Relationship Therapy
Q: Do we have to be in a specific type of nonmonogamous relationship to work with you?
Not at all. I work with clients practicing all forms of consensual nonmonogamy—including open relationships, polyamory, solo poly, relationship anarchy, and more. What matters most is that your relationships are rooted in care, consent, and mutual respect.
Q: Can we come to therapy even if we’re still figuring out our relationship style?
Yes. Many clients come to therapy unsure if nonmonogamy is right for them—or struggling to navigate different preferences within a partnership. Therapy is a great place to explore those questions with curiosity and compassion.
Q: What if jealousy or insecurity is coming up?
These are incredibly common (and human) experiences in any type of relationship. Therapy can help you understand where those emotions are coming from, how to work with them, and how to stay connected to your values even when things feel hard.
Q: Will you tell us what our agreements or boundaries should be?
Nope. My role isn’t to impose a structure or set of rules—it’s to help you get clear on what you want and need, and to support respectful negotiation between partners. You’re the expert on your relationships; I’m here to support the process.
Q: Can you help after a rupture or betrayal?
Yes. Repair is possible, even after trust has been shaken. We’ll work together to understand what happened, rebuild safety, and decide how you want to move forward—whether that’s together or separately.